When Scott and I had been married for a little over a
year, we went to Richmond , VA
While we were in training, a couple came and spoke to us
about the importance of a strong marriage.
They shared with us that it is vital to take time away each year to
assess your marriage, to talk about ways in which to improve your marriage and
to take time to get away from everyday life.
They gave us a list of 20 questions: 10 questions were for the husband
to complete and 10 questions were for the wife to complete. Each year, you would make it your goal to
take a trip together and spend time going over these questions.
It sounded like a good idea at the time, so we filed the
questions away. Well, a year later, we
pulled them out and went over them with each other. It truly was an eye-opening experience. As we went through the questions, we realized
that we both had some unmet expectations and that we both had areas where we needed
improvement. The weekend was
much-needed: we needed time to get away from the busyness of life and time to
focus on our marriage and how we can be a better spouse. We came home feeling re-energized and
refreshed.
I wish I could say that we have done this every single
year, but that hasn't happened. Life can
get busy all too quickly and having small children at home makes it hard to
find time to get away. But, we want to
make it our goal to take time away each year and answer the questions and spend
some time away. We are planning our
weekend away right now, and I’m excited to have a little time away from
everyday life.
We have come up with our own set of questions that work
best for us. Feel free to use our
questions, or come up with a set all on your own! I hope and pray that God uses these questions
to help draw you closer to your spouse and to our Heavenly Father.
“Give honor to marriage,
and remain faithful to one another in marriage…”
Hebrews 13:4
